I was amazed during
the last month as I worked with people on their journey to discover their
passion in life to see just how far they have drifted from that unique design
for their lives.
People
intuitively know what they like. It amazes me to see how many people end up a
thousand miles away from that intuitive knowledge. They start jobs just to get
started in a career and then get stuck in that job or occupation field due to
many reasons. Some include things like,
- Reliance on the salary they earn due to financial commitments they got themselves into
- Fear of stepping out into the “unknown”
- Not believing they can do anything other than what they currently do
This causes
people to “drink
bitter coffee” on a daily basis. As mentioned in my
previous post, bitter coffee refers to the product of too much coffee and too
little water. Life can be like bitter coffee when the mixture of the things
that makes up our experience are wrong. People that drink bitter coffee have approximately 10 to 50% job satisfaction and that causes them to be unhappy
individuals. The real problem comes in when they go home after a day’s work.
What the people at home get is not the happiest and friendliest individual but
one that causes stress on the family. Everything can spiral out of control in
the home and one’s personal life all because of the wrong occupation. Bob Dickie, President of Crown Financial Ministries, addresses this very issue in his latest blog and I recommend this read to all.
As I have
assisted well over 1,200 teenagers, students and adults in the last few years
in this discovery process through an amazing tool called Career Direct®, I have
come to the following conclusions:
People make
occupational decisions based on:
· Parent’s expectations and unfulfilled
dreams
· Where the most money is
· Peer pressure
· Availability of work
· Their interest at the time
This could
very easily be the recipe for disaster in a lot of people’s lives in terms of
career and ultimately their sense of purpose. I would like to take this
opportunity to take you through the things I have learned the last few years as
I have consulted with individuals and families through the use of Career Direct® as an assessment tool.
Filtering Coffee to get to the perfect cup!
When using the filtering process as demonstrated in the picture below to get to the PASSION of one’s life, I like to use the four levels that Career Direct® uses: Personality, Interests, Skills, and Values.
Level 1: Personality
As detailed in my previous blog post, personality plays the biggest role in understanding one’s passion.
As detailed in my previous blog post, personality plays the biggest role in understanding one’s passion.
Making the right career choice starts with understanding one’s personality. When we understand our unique personality and actually celebrate it, we are in the best possible place to make good decisions about our future. Remember that our personality could change but 1%! It is character that is the variable. Character can go a long way to help with our general mood and demeanor when we are misplaced in a career field, but ultimately it is our personality that will allow us to experience joy or defeat.
Level 2: Interests
People’s interests are triggered or developed through exposure. There are a lot of things people are interested in and it is very important when using the filtering process to understand what is significant regarding career choice and what is not.
The best
resource in understanding what interest is pointing too in a specific career
field, is personality. As we learned, personality will hardly change over a
lifespan of 80 years, so I guess it makes sense to consult the one thing that will be consistent in our
lives.
I literally
take each one of the interests that are significant in one’s profile and filter
it through the personality. Individuals might be very interested in a specific
activity but the question is whether that activity can make one happy for 60%
of waking time that you will spend at your job? Personality will very quickly
show you whether that interest is something that will make you happy for most
of your waking time on a consistent basis or not. Sometimes personality will
point out that the interest is just a hobby or maybe a once a week activity
instead of an everyday activity.
Interests can
be divided into three areas: activity, occupation and subject. It is important to
find the correlation between the different interest areas and then filter that
through the personality. Once you have done that successfully, you can have
that alignment between personality and interest. In other words, the two speak
to each other and are
actually having a wonderful conversation. There is harmony between the two and
that is what we are after. That settles levels one and two.
Level 3: Skills
Level three
has got to do with understanding and identifying your skills. This is probably
the easiest level to identify as your grades would reflect your skill and
competency levels. Your friends’ and family’s input would also attest to what
you are good at. One
thing to take into account is the difference between natural skill and acquired
skill. The difference is not as obvious as one might think however.
Let me
explain a scenario to illustrate the difference and how this can have an effect
in your fulfillment as a person. Let us assume that I am not the most skilled
artist. I want to improve and so I go for 3 lessons a week for three years.
After three years I have learned almost everything there is to learn and has
actually become quite good. I then enter a drawing competition that allows two
hours to complete a pencil drawing and after two hours of giving my best, I get
a grade of 93%. Also in this drawing competition is a young lady that has not
taken the lessons I have and after two hours she also gets a grade of 93%. In
fact, she only used one of the two allotted hours to complete her drawing. We
both received a very good grade for the work we put in. The difference between
us was not the output (results) but the input (our energy levels). You see, it
took me the full two hours to achieve the 93% grade while it only took her one
hour. I would probably be exhausted after this exercise as I worked from my
acquired skill whereas the young lady would probably be energized by working
from her natural skill. She might even ask if that was the warm up exercise,
while I would pray that it wasn't.
The take away
is to understand what your natural
skill is and to make sure that it correlates with your interest and that both
fit under the umbrella of personality.
Level 4: Values
Most people
would not think of values when making a decision on what to study or when applying
for a certain job. Values are actually the last filter in the coffee filtering
process and to me, probably the most critical one. People tend to do what they
think (or want) in the moment, and that could be the undoing that causes a lot
of pain in life.
Let me
explain by using an example:
Let’s assume
a young man of 18 years is generally a very quiet and reserved individual that
also likes to be very precise and organized. He also does not like change and
is not very adventurous. Everything I just mentioned is personality traits that
will not change significantly over a lifetime of 80 years.
He befriends
some guys his age that are very sporty and adventurous and before long he gets
dragged to all their activities and explorations. He even starts to enjoy being
around them and then actually assimilates to the way they view life. The way he
sees and perceives the world has just changed. The problem however is that he didn't change in the way he does things. Let’s say that he graduates and are
lured to become a Ski instructor in the Swiss Alps with his friends. How long
do you think he will last in the Alps? I think that it would not be very long,
because as a precise and organized person, he might not like to share a room
with 5 others that might not be as precise as he is. The schedule might change
on them a lot due to the weather and he needs to talk to strangers a lot. That
might not be the best environment for him. The way that he viewed the world
through his friends’ eyes, in other words the values he made decisions on, just
caused him a great deal of discomfort and displeasure.
Coffee that Produces Passion
In order to drink the good coffee that comes through this filtering process, all of the four areas need to be aligned and correlated. I call this correlation the golden thread that runs through your life. That is what produces good coffee and the unique thing that happens when you take a sip of that coffee is that it produces passion in your life. This passion flows every day without you having to borrow it, work it up or talk yourself into it. I wish this on every person walking the face of the earth today. May each of you enjoy a great cup of coffee!